How many relationships have foundered because of attitudes that do not need? Imagine you have to lose those precious to you just because he can not resist some of these properties.
The spy
Usually this attitude comes from nature, curious and do not believe in pairs. Check the phone pairs lying, open social media accounts, checking email, to follow him from afar when he went with his friend. Believe me, this is very disturbing nature and can make your partner frustrated.
He always felt he was not trusted and you always feel he is keeping secrets. The result is always the suspicion arises that ended the conflict and strife. You yourself would not like if you checked the phone quietly.
Such properties are maintained pointless. Maybe you're tired of hearing that good relationships starts from the trust and good communication. But that's reality. Are not you tired of always suspicious and insecure with your relationship?
Ask your partner to be open, introducing you to his environment, and is always getting used to swapping stories. Maybe all this time your partner wants to be open but was afraid to do so because it will make you angry or suspicious. So if you want to become a person who believes in spouses or partners prefer to hide the little details of life in order to avoid conflict?
Drama queen
Contemporary drama queen like spit ups and downs of his love relationships in social media. Fighting, loving, suspicious, angry, not hard to figure out his emotions through the status of BlackBerry Messenger, Twitter, or Facebook. Your social networking friends to watch soap operas as part of your daily life. The couple was uncomfortable because the kitchen is open to relationships everywhere.
Perhaps you are a woman who needs to vent your emotions or feelings to a point. But that does not mean everyone should know. Therefore, always try to resolve conflicts with your partner during a fight. No need to run away from problems or leaving a fight by locking the mouth. Your partner is not a mind reader.
By spreading your personal problems into public places not only your partner to be judged by many people, but also your own. Do something useful if you want to vent emotions or calm down. Go exercise, relaxation in the salon, or doing a hobby can be a good escape if it will calm down. Besides spilling the secret emotions and your relationships in social media will not bring the benefits and solutions anything but cap "drama queen" on yourself.
'Motherhood'
Being full of motherly love and compassion would be nice. But if you turn into her mother would make your partner uncomfortable. Too set up, fussy about little things, and stop being a lover of fun.
This attitude arises from the nature to protect and make you a better lover. But the results make your partner feel constrained and frustrated. Each individual has their own way to feel comfortable. You voted for him to know some of the known conditions. Start a relationship with an obsession to turn them into better people may actually not be as expected. You are also not a perfect person.
Motivations do not directly trigger such an example for good behavior. Feeling compelled to change even cause rebellious nature lover inside. The result, you're both unhappy. If indeed you want a lover like a drastic change from her long hair cut, make it stop from the motorcycle club, or similar matters, should have communicated it before you start your commitment.
Find out his views and find out whether it is something that can be altered or principle. Your main mission of starting a relationship rather than an agent make-over but a couple of mutual trust and support.
Handyman count
Compare here and there or to calculate the goodness with your loved one is also a disturbing nature. The attitude of the calculations starting from the properties that always want to strive for more. You often questioned how many times he canceled an appointment for your family but also often sacrifice time for the him. "You have been canceled three times, whereas I'm more often at the expense of time for you."
No use to calculate the good that you do vs good that he did. Relationship should be based on the attitude without always demanding reciprocation. Maintaining this attitude will make you a woman who likes to sue. The attitude is very demanding hobby favored by men. No need to sacrifice or effort to do more for him in your heart if you expect the same in return. Do good to pair with a sincere intention.
Comparing with other couples relationship is a destructive manner. Every relationship is different from one another. This attitude is emerging because of the nature not to be outdone or competed glad that there is within you. If your friend and her partner do A, you and your lover should at least do the same thing or better.
If you buy a couple friends of flowers, you expect your loved one will also do so even though he is not romantic. This relationship will be very tiring and full of discontent. Focus on the things that make you forget things that are unique value of your relationship. There was no similar individuals, because it's pointless to equate your relationship with others. Instead, focus on your own to make the relationship more enjoyable without the busy look at both sides of the relationships of others.
